Tuesday, October 29, 2013

31 Days to a Fruitful Marriage Day Twenty Seven: Dealing With the Issue of Trust

Trust is a very important part of a relationship, I don't think any would argue that fact. When that trust is broken, it is hard to get it back.
Broken trust is something I think almost everyone goes through at one time in their marriage. It doesn't always have to be in the way of infidelity - it can be one spouse sharing confidential information with someone else, spending money without the other knowing, or keeping things secret that shouldn't be a secret. When your spouse violates your trust, how do you deal with it?
I know we'd like for our spouses to be perfect and never do anything wrong, but the fact is that is just not true. People are going to make mistakes from time to time. Sometimes, letting it go is the best way of dealing with it. However, sometimes letting it go just isn't an option. If your spouse is violating trust by keeping secrets or spending money you don't know about, it might be the symptom of a larger issue or addiction and needs to be addressed by a professional. Depending on the situation, knowing that these are one of those times, during our marriage vows, that says, "for better or for worse." Addressing the situation and discussing it needs to happen, no matter how uncomfortable or hurtful the situation might be. Once the truth is "set free," true healing can begin.

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