Monday, June 23, 2014

I Have the Bossiest Kid on the Block...And It's Not So Bad


Show me a place with kids and I'll show you my daughter bossing them around.
 
There. I said it.
 
All of you who are my friends who also have kids we play with know this. We've discussed it at length. My child has been known to boss around the best of them - kids older, kids younger. She is an equal opportunity bosser-arounder.
 
I was watching her today at Chick Fil A and I couldn't help to be grateful that God made her this way.
 
You see, you might NOT know this about me (unless I've met you, ever), but I can also be a little bossy from time to time. You'd think I would hate this about her or that we'd fight a lot because of it. Heaven knows she tries to show me everyday that she's the boss of me too. But, I really like it about her. I just see a kid who is assertive, social, isn't afraid to stand up for herself, who is smart, who uses her wit to get what she wants (or out of things). I see a kid who, if groomed properly now, can turn into a teenager who won't be swayed by others, who'll stand up for herself and who won't allow people to hurt her feelings and destroy her spirit. I see a kid who, if groomed properly, can become an adult who could be an amazing employee or boss. I guess I see her less like this as a 3 year old and more of how being "bossy" can be such a wonderful attribute later in life.
 
The things is, we all know kids are born with certain personality traits. Kids like my daughter would be called bossy, or perhaps strong willed. Many parents might be tempted to break her of this spirit, to start calling her "defiant" because she has opinions and keep her personality "in check." I guess I would rather bend her spirit and teach her how to be herself without it being a negative thing.
 
I want to teach her to be assertive, but not overstep her bounds. Persuasive without being offensive. A leader without being overbearing. As women, we need more women who are smart, strong willed, but still strive to be kind to others (especially other women), to be respectful, to care about other people's feelings. I want my daughter to grow up knowing how to be compassionate, empathetic, and brave without being a bully, rude, or mean.
 
There are so many times I hear her in the play area, telling the other kids how to play, or putting her little hands on her hips and wagging her finger. I try and step in to tell her that not everyone wants to be bossed around. But I want her to learn that from being around other kids, too. To learn how people want to be treated. I want her to be able to understand where people are coming from and appreciate that other people are different. I also want her to learn that it's OK to lead but it's also OK to let other people make the rules sometimes, too.
 
Yeah, I have the bossy kid. And I wouldn't have it any other way.
 

Sunday, June 22, 2014

My Daughter's Smile

My child has the best smile in the whole, wide, world.
 
 
Her smile makes it really hard for me to ever be mad at her, I'll tell you that much.

 
My daughter's smile lights up rooms.

 
My daughter's smile is infectious.

 
I think all of the girls in our house have pretty great smiles, if you ask me.

 
Happy Sunday, blog world!!



Monday, June 16, 2014

Little of This, Little of That

Friday before last was the kids last day of school. Last year, we got Braums. This year, they requested Buffalo Wild Wings, which has turned out to be their favorite place to eat.
 




 
The next morning, we took Jordan for coffee (because he is old enough for that now, apparently) at the Brass Bean, which is our local GP coffee shop. There was this nice group of people there and this man read the girls a really cute poem. He was so very nice.

 
I say coffee but it's really more like lots of creamer with coffee in it.

 
One of my dreams as a parent is to be able to be home for a summer and take my kids to the water park. I guess it's because I have a lot of great memories of my mom taking us as kids. This might be the only summer I get a chance to do this so I am going to take full advantage. We got passes to Hawaiian Falls and have already been four times! It's definitely worth it and I am looking forward to going more!! Avery makes a friend every time we go.

 






 
We bring snacks and eat and play. Then eat and play. Then eat and play!



 
Jordan and Sophia got to go with us, which was great fun!
 


 
 
 

Thursday, June 5, 2014

Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? Why?

Avery loves to ask questions!!! Namely, "Why, mommy?"
 
Today, at the grocery store, I thought I needed to write down some more questions she's been asking, though some rather embarrassing.
 
"Mommy, why is that man's face like that?" she said, while pointing to a man with a scowl.
 
"Mommy, why is that man so big?"
 
"Mommy, why is that women's dress like that?" (We were in Kroger and the small dress was on a larger woman).
 
When my cable was being installed, "Mommy, that man is dirty." Oh man, that was embarrassing.
 
I am loving all of these stages so much and she is becoming a really fun little person to hang out with. But, man, it's going to be interesting!!
 
My little squishy face :-)
 
 

Tuesday, June 3, 2014

My Little Sidekick

So, we are going into this summer a little different than other summers. Right about now, in the past few years, it's been a mad scramble to figure out what we are going to do with the kids while we have them the whole month of July. It was always stressful, both planning wise and financially. This year, I have to say, it's a huge blessing that we don't have to worry about it, with me being in my new career. I've had people ask me how real estate has been going, and I'd have to say, GREAT! It's been a lot of fun. I love looking at houses with people and finding a house the speaks to them and being there through the process. I am cutting myself a little bit of slack right now - Avery has only been in school twice a week (10 hours a week) and now, she is out of school completely until fall starts. So, with a  3 year old, and a husband who works and travels a lot, it's always a task to figure out when I can work and how it can be done. It usually falls to the nights and weekends, and that works well for our family. I am looking forward to this summer, though. We will be getting our Hawaiian Falls passes and I see many a' day out there, under the sun, cooling off in the water.
 
With that said, Avery has been a real trooper, being home with me almost all day, every day, even when I have to work on the computer (which is a lot). She has traveled the neighborhood with me passing out flyers, she's gone to my office several times while I did things I needed to do, she's gone and previewed houses with me, and gone to other realty companies to drop off money, like she did today.
 
 
 
I really think she likes being my little sidekick and today, she was so good with all of the errands I had to run, that she got a slushie and Cheetos as a snack, at QT. You'd have thought I'd bought her a gold bar or something.
 
Earlier today, we had to finish some laundry and she wanted to help, which I was all about!!
 


Avery has just entered the "why?" phase. Everything is why? why? why? I love it but there isn't anything you can do to satisfy her curiosity. I've learned that. It's so wonderful to watch her switching in to the next phase of life, she is really so much fun!!
 

Sunday, June 1, 2014

Our Day

Today, we had church. My handsome and growing stepson gave his life to the Lord a few years back but has been hesitant to be baptized. We've had a lot of conversations about it and today, he leaned over the Jason and said, "Dad, I want to be baptized, next week." We just were so excited! I wish we had a picture, but it happened so fast, I just didn't grab my camera. I will have pictures and video from the actual baptism, though.
 

I am just so happy for him - he has really chosen the Lord and has chosen to hold His word in His heart. He is very serious about his decision and even though it took him a little while to decide on baptisms (which take alot of courage!) we know that his decision is a solid, wise one that God led his heart to. If you get a moment, pray for him this week, will you?
 
Then, there are these little girls. Man, they are both messes individually, but get them together, and you are in for it. Avery won't keep her hair up to save her life. It aggravates me to no end, not because I want her hair to be picture perfect, but because it's CONSTANTLY in her face. Drives me crazy.
 

 
This little munchkin played in the sprinkler and kept taking "showers." She is such a joy with her gorgeous smile and personality!!

 
She kept telling me "Cheese!" Think we stick a camera in their face from time to time, or what?


 
I tried to get a good picture of Avery (who is swimming like crazy), but she kept just wanting to spit water out of the pool.

 
Oh, Sophie. You are my crazy child.

 
And I did get a few action shots of the powerful athletes in action, which I will be sending off the Sports Illustrated shortly.
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These are some great shots I got of some fabulous looking kiddos!
 

 
Tell me he doesn't look 20, here.

 
She is loving every minute of swimming these days!!