So, we know what fruitful is. We know where we are starting from and where our weaknesses may lie. Now, what do you do if you are started from a place of being "broken" or "breaking?"
If your marriage is breaking or broken, have hope that you can change it. It will be work and it will take doing some things differently than how you've done them in the past, but you can change the fate of your marriage. It's God's intention that marriage is a convenant that lasts "till death to you part." The marriage you are in is a marriage that God wants to last.
There are so many reasons a marriage can break up. Too many to even considering listing. A lot of times, we get to a point where we feel like there is no return and have a hard time finding our way back after months or years of hurt. Broken promises, disrespect, lack of a common ground, these are all things that can go on for such a long time that it can be hard to figure out how to start again. The other problem that seems to happen is that you are so focused on your partner's downfalls and faults that you couldn't possibly be focused on what is the right thing to be focused on, and that is God.
As easy as that solution might sound, turn your attentions to God. Even if your partner won't do it with you. Even if you are the only one praying for your marriage or working on it, still do it anyway. Pray that God will use your actions as an example of Christ's love to your spouse. Pray for your spouse, pray for your marriage. Every day. Begin praying to God to show you His plan for your life, your partner's life, and your life together. Ask your spouse to pray with you, even if he/she won't, ask anyway. When you begin to focus on God rather than on each other, you start turning your heart towards something that can be fruitful rather than something that isn't fruitful.
If you and your spouse are willing to work on it but don't know how to start, doing the above things are a good place to start. In the upcoming days, we will go through some specific ways to get to a fruitful place in your marriage. Have hope - things can get better.
"Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace." -Ephesians 4:2-3