Friday, September 14, 2012

A "Simple" Question??

A friend of mine recently wrote about the possibility of having more children. It gave me an idea to write about that topic myself! I get asked alot whether or not I am done. In our situation, while Jason has three, I only have one child that is biologically mine. So, they always say, "When are you guys having another one?" The answer is that we are done having children.
While I have not made that decision permanent, let's just say that I don't think we will be getting a surprise any time soon. (Mark my words that I just said that, ha ha!)
I love Avery more than words could ever say. But I wasn't even sure before I found out we were pregnant if we would ever even have any at all. I couldn't imagine my life without Avery; she is a blessing and is a completion to our family. However, I know Jason really has no desire to have a fourth. And I really don't know if I want to go through raising another one. Our life is nuts as it is with the three we've got!
I used to get sad to look at pregnant people and look on with slight envy. But that's just with the pregnancy part, not with the actual "you have another human being on Earth that you now have to raise, and clothe, and feed for the rest of their lives." I don't know that I could ever be a stay at home mom, so really, I couldn't afford to have another one. And now, we have a home where everyone gets their own room, I just think that's good and wouldn't want to mess with that. I also think I got pretty lucky with the kid I got the first time around, I don't want to tempt fate! Just kidding. These are all things that would work themselves out if we were to have one more. I guess it just comes down to the fact that when Jason and I think about the 18th year of this child's life and how old we'd be, we just still want to be able to have freedom at a relatively young age (God willing!) and we like our family just the size it is.
I always said I wanted to have another one so Avery would know what it's like to have a full time brother or sister. But I think she gets the best of both worlds, in that she has brothers and sisters some of the time and she gets to be an only child sometimes. She will get to share the experience of growing up with Colbi, who will share grandparents with her. So I think we are all just fine with our family of 7 (plus the dogs). It's enough and we are very content with that. 

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