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The 16 Ways I Got Through the First Year of Marriage

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My one year wedding anniversary is coming up in three days. It has been a very eventful year for me and my husband, to say the least! I can't help but think how well we got through it, but how did we do it? I thought you all might be interested in seeing the 16 ways we got through the first year of marriage.

1. We laughed. A lot. At our circumstances, at ourselves, at situations. If we didn't laugh, we would have cried!!!

2. We took each other's faults with a grain of salt.

3. We appreciated each other's contributions on a daily basis. I don't think a single dish would have gotten washed if it wasn't for my husband!

4. We stopped lying and appreciated the other person telling the truth. We also became very truthful with our families.

5. We didn't wish our lives to be what they weren't or wish to have other people's marriages. We were happy with what we had/have and appreciated our relationship and family for what it was, not for what we wished it would be, compared to others.

6. We started accepting the other person for who they really were, no matter how difficult that was to do.

7. We worked hard at evolving our bad habits for the sake of the other person.

8. We worked as a partnership and realized that things aren't always fair and both people do not give 100% every minute of every day. Sometimes its one person giving more than another.

9. We learned to let things go, very quickly, especially if it was negative.

10. We took the word "divorce" out of our vocabulary.

11. We made time for just us and made it a priority to have fun together.

12. We kissed each other goodbye every morning.

13. We say I love you more often than just at the end of a phone conversation.

14. We accepted that someone else accepted us for who we really are. That's a hard one, if you really think about it.

15. We started looking at life/marriage as a long race, not a series of short races. Its not always easy and its not about winning. Its about getting to the end together, crossing the finish line together.

16. MOST IMPORTANTLY: we put God at the center of our marriage, every day. A couple who prays together stays together.

I am curious how you got through your first year of marriage!!!
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